The Ups and Downs of Having Children Close in Age

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I never expected to have three children in two years.  I mean, I always wanted kids, but way back when, before I actually had them, I probably would have said I wanted two kids, spaced three or four years apart.

But that’s not how life works, and now I’ve got my three who are currently ages three and under.  Sometimes it’s awesome and sometimes it’s awful.

Here's an example of it being awesome.

Here’s an example of it being awesome.

I’m talking all about my worries and guilt and joy over having children close in age at VoiceBoks, a parenting website, today.  Please click on the link below to check it out and let me know what you think!

Can Having Kids Close in Age be a Good Thing?

  • woodrick5

    I feel like we are living parallel lives! I have three children under three also but mine are all boys. I have twin boys who are almost 3 and a 1 year old baby boy. My biggest concern is that my youngest doesn’t know how what to do with himself without his big brothers! Anytime he can not be around them or do what they are doing he has a fit. I am very worried for what will happen when they go off to school and he is left at home to play by himself. We are thinking about having a fourth child and although it would be even more chaotic at our house, at least our youngest would then have his own “partner in crime.” 🙂 I don’t want our youngest to go through life feeling like the third wheel. Do you ever worry about that?

    • ShakespearesMom

      I worried about it before our youngest was born. I thought she might feel left out without a twin of her own. I still worry about it sometimes, but she has a very outgoing and easygoing personality. Sometimes her feelings get hurt when her big sisters don’t want her to play with them, but for someone so little, she’s very good at sticking up for herself and she’s getting better and better at creating her own games and stuff now too. I think it totally depends on your child’s personality, but maybe it will be good for your youngest to have some time away from his brothers when they go to school. Maybe he’ll develop more confidence and independence on his own.
      Best of luck to you – it’s pretty crazy having three so little, but I’m so glad to know that someone is dealing with the same challenges! Thanks for reading and saying hi!

  • Oh but they’re SO CUTE! I had TWO back to back and I can barely handle that. My oldest is a teenager, so I had teenagers and toddlers at the same time. You know what? THAT should be TLC’s next show “Toddlers and Teenagers” because I’ll tell ya, it’s not meant to go down like that! One is up late at night, the other two are up early in the morning. It DOES STUFF TO YA. Can’t wait to read what you’ve written!

    • ShakespearesMom

      “Toddlers and Teenagers” is a great idea for a show. My mom would totally get where you’re coming from. I went to college the year my youngest sister went to Kindergarten. Of course I had no idea at the time how hard that must have been for my parents, but yeah, I bet it does do stuff to ya! And thanks, they are pretty freaking cute in that picture, huh? They were wearing my husband’s shirts and pretending to be “ghosts,” but I think they look more like colorful little nuns :).

  • Angie

    Sometimes it feels so hard finding someone who understands the stress of three kids three and under….I guess because there arent many of us out there that insane lol. My b/g twins just turned three and my youngest son is 18mos. To say its been hard seems like an understatement but I love it. Glad I found your blog…now maybe I wont feel quite as crazy 🙂